Everything is worth a cost. What an oversimplified statement, huh? Almost exhaustingly redundant at its core. I would put my dollar on the fact we all had the same songs, statements and biblical examples run through our mind.

So, I have a twist. What is sex worth? See? Twist.

With Valentine’s Day before us, love is in the air. Cards, flowers, dinner, chocolate, teddy’s (bears not nightie’s. Get your head out of the gutter). Valentine’s is quite the day of highs and lows. Shall we say it is brilliantly exhausting?!

So, what if we step away from the expectations and just do it.

I hope you laughed, because that is exactly what I meant. The question then is this, What is your cost? That is, what do you need in order to allow yourself to relish in the act of love in your husband’s arms? For me, it’s $100. I joke. But in truth, what do we (consciously or unconsciously) charge our husbands? Whether we are aware of it or not, we tend to lay down a firm price for sex.

So, let’s figure out our cost, our price tag, our bottom line. hehe

For some of us it’s simple; a word of appreciation, a smile from his eyes, a touch on our lower back as he passes by, one passionate kiss. Others of us require a bit more; a few hours of pure serenity, a hot bath, a long massage, a walk outside hand in hand, a dinner at a favorite restaurant, a hotel room.

There are seasons in our lives that altar the price. For you whose heart just found its resting place in this post, whose heart knows the depths of its price tag, may I say with abundant sisterly love, take your time but take a step. Know where your heart is. Ponder what it needs to take a step forward, then work at taking that step. Understand why your heart is where it is and predetermine the value of your love. For you, at this moment, it is less about allowing sex to rock your world and more about letting your heart live and/or love again, freely.

So, with that said, let’s get it on. Here are a few tips/resources in no particular order…

• Glean enticement tips from the naughty woman in Proverbs 7.
• The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
• Tell your husband your cost. Be upfront. Be honest. Be real. Smile.
• Buy yourself something pretty: lotion, nail polish, outfit, shoes, lipstick, teddy (nightie not a bear. Get your head in the gutter). 😉
• Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
• Do for/to your husband what you would have done for/to you.
• Relax your head. For real! When your man is touching you don’t think about your children, they don’t want you to do that. As for work, it can be done later. Think about what is happening at that very moment. Truly think about that kiss, that touch, that desire, that moment. Mentally be present.
• Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman (*Suggestion from a friend from her “prude days”)
• Don’t let ill emotion rob you from today. The past happened. I’m so sorry it happened. And I know you are to. I also know Jesus is big enough to forgive and heal the past. If you are a daughter of the King, then you are big enough to forgive and receive healing from the past as well.
• Find a trustworthy woman with whom you can confidently and freely discuss your thoughts, fears, apprehensions, questions, ideas, etc… A girlfriend chat can be extremely helpful. She can help move information from your head to your heart by validating truth. (*Added tip from a sweet friend)
• Enjoy it. Hey, practice makes perfect. Get your practice on.
• Be patient with your season. Perhaps today is not your day to Get Yo Groove On, but perhaps tomorrow. Sing Annie, the sun will come out again.

And that’s Jaclyn Talk. 😉

Happy Day to you and yours.